While the mixing of cultures in America is a given, sometimes fuses these traditions can be tricky. But, they don’t have to be – let’s take a look at customs that you can incorporate into your big day that is both Asian Fusion and American.
In Japanese culture, there are many symbols and customs ingrained in their wedding traditions. While the Western custom of exchanging rings has become increasingly popular over the years, the ritual of “san-san-kudo”, the three by three exchanges are rich with meaning. It is performed by the bride and groom and both sets of parents; each person takes three sips of sake from each of three cups. The first three represent three couples, the bride and groom, and their parents. The second three represent three human flaws: hatred, passion, and ignorance. “Ku,” or nine is a lucky number in Japanese culture. And “do” means deliverance from the three flaws.
Aruba, Jamaica, Oooo I Wanna Take Ya
Are you looking to say “I Do” on a tropical island, sandy beach or private beach? Do you want a small, simple wedding? Do you want something different than the normal wedding affair? Whatever your reason, you have come to the right place. Toes in the water, tush in the sand, salty sea air whipping through your hair, these are just a few of the highlights of a beachy fun wedding. From Cape Cod to the white sandy beaches of the Virgin Islands, beaches come with some details that you need to consider when planning your love fest.
1) Pick an Off-Season Date
This may seem like a no-brainer, but pick a date in the off-season. Peak times may include Memorial Day through Labor Day. Off-peak is anything outside that window of time. The weather will still be stunning, but you’ll hear a lot more “yes” if you’re not trying to pull off a huge event in the middle of local business’ bread-and-butter season. Also, they’ll probably be more flexible in off-peak pricing than if you were trying to get married over 4th of July weekend or something.
Once you pick a date, you’ll need to decide if you’re going public beach or private beach. The reality of getting married on the beach is that beaches very rarely offer the same freedoms as private property. Also, some people have serious aversions to sand, and consider it a glorified form of dirt. But beach weddings are possible, and not all of them require you to throw a large chunk of cash at an all-inclusive beach resort place.
Also, keep in mind that you may have a lot of gawkers that watch your wedding on the sidelines. There is really no way to avoid this unless you have bouncers or something.
If you choose a public beach, literally memorize the city ordinances governing that beach. Some beaches require permits for bonfires, food services, etc. Also, know THERE IS NO WAY TO AVOID OPEN CONTAINER LAWS. This may depend on the state, country, etc that you are having your beach wedding at, but know this could be a costly mistake if not adhered to.
According to many travel and wedding magazines the following 10 spots are the best locations to get hitched on the beach, in no particular order:
10 Can’t Live Without Wedding Blogs…Best Wedding Blogs
While planning your wedding, it’s always nice to have some inspiration when it comes to giving you ideas, drooling over gowns, or fun DIY projects. We’ve done the dirty work for you and sifted through hundreds, if not thousands of wedding blogs and Websites for the crème de la crème.
We chose the following fabulous wedding sites brimming with inspirations, pictures, and drool-worthy pretties to make your head swirl with ideas.
1) Martha Stewart Weddings
The queen of crafts is back at it and adding her flair to weddings. We can’t get enough of her personalized touches and crafty goodness.
2) Style Me Pretty
Want to drool over beautiful wedding photograph after another? Well, you’re in luck. SMP is the source for all things pretty. Not only do they pack the punch for pictures, but they also have a great resource guide to contact and utilize vendors that are featured in real weddings in your area! Isn’t that just the best idea ever?
3) Wedding Chicks
Wedding chicks is a one-stop shop for the bride in a hurry. From DIY printables to real wedding features to deals on vendors and services, this site is simply perfect for all brides and their planning process.
4) Recycled Bride
Are you looking for ways to turn one bride’s “junk” into your wedding day treasure? Well, the Recycled Bride does just that. They have classifieds, ideas, tips and tricks on how to effectively use someone else’s goods. They claim they have the largest wedding marketplace containing décor, wedding dresses, wedding accessories, and much, much more!
The BRIDES site is the online form of the print magazine. They cover absolutely everything you can imagine from registry assistance to honeymoon help to message boards encouraging other frantic brides that they are not alone in this wedding planning chaos.
6) The Knot
The Knot is the internet’s most-trafficked one-stop wedding planning solution. They offer a fresh voice and real-world sensibility alternative to the white-gloved, outdated advice of the available etiquette experts, The Knot has quickly become America’s leading wedding brand reaching out to millions of engaged couples each year through our award-winning website, books, magazines, and broadcast offerings.
7) Project Wedding
Indeed your wedding is a project. And with the right resources like Project Wedding, life can be a little more manageable. From DIY ideas to forums to travel tips and alternatives for the finicky bride, project wedding is a breath of fresh air.
8) Wedding Bee
The Wedding Bee is basically run by brides-to-be. You can apply to blog about your day-to-day planning, crafts, and other planning tips and tricks. It’s a perfect place for “misery is company” to find other brides dealing with similar situations or selling their goods from their own wedding.
9) Offbeat Bride
The Offbeat bride offers an alternative to traditional brides. From crazy wedding reception concepts to food to attire- anything is fair game here.
10) Budget Savvy Bride
So you’re on a budget, we’ll most couples are trying to stay within a budget for your big day, but the Budget Savvy Bride takes it to the next level of savings. Check it out to save yourself some cold hard cash.
Upside down wedding cake? Yes, please!
After a whirlwind romance, Bing Bang cutie Kaley Cuoco married her tennis player boyfriend in a super glam, ultra whimsical wedding in LA. And while the over the top wedding flowers, ritzy venue and celeb guest list are all in line with your typical tinsel town nuptuals, the fete had some seriously cool details like a bubble gum pink custom Vera Wang dress. And for the costume change later on in the night, this super cool bride didn’t go with a safe white either- she switched into a fit and flare red mini dress to dance the night away with her new hubby. But the one detail that has everyone buzzing, is the upside down wedding cake the couple blew everyone away with, including the wedding industry veterans who must admit that it just might be the coolest cake in history.
So here’s what we know about the wedding and how the cake plays a perfect part in the entire event. The New Year’s Eve celebration had a “fire and ice” theme with fire being represented with ultra warm hued lighting and ice of course, being major bling. The six tiered cake, created by Kimberly Bailey of LA- based The Butter End, was suspended from a huge crystal chandelier and adorned with matching crystals to carry through the them right down to the smaller tier. The entire thing was engineered with sandbags of matching weight and involved several trips to home depot to secure it just right so that the couple could literally dance under the “cake hanging from a chandelier” all night. Pretty cool.
And the guests even got a little show when the couple went to do the traditional cake cutting. And sure enough they cut right into it and it stayed perfectly affixed! The photos are really something to behold with a huge chunk missing after they tasted the cherry almond and vanilla almond buttercream confection.
While we hope to see more over the top cakes like Cuoco’s these bad boys don’t come cheap! The Butter End created a seven foot tall cake for Mariska Hargitay and a stunning 1,000 custom sugar flower creation for Chelsea Clinton’s wedding ringing in at around $11,000! So maybe this trend isn’t for the budget savvy bride but we can’t wait to see what those resourceful DIY brides have to say about this one! One thing is for sure, it’s not for the faint of heart!