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Family Trouble

 

Family trouble can pop up in any wedding situation when two people decide to merge their families and traditions. With the holidays coming up we will address some ways to cope. There are always two sides of the situation. Perhaps your fiancé’s family you are the problem.  Maybe they view you as not ambitious enough, or domestic, or whatever. However, their son chose YOU. And, they will be stuck with YOU for the rest of their lives as well. It might not be an ideal situation but family trouble can fade over time.

You might not know the reasons why they are not fond of you, but you can definitely feel the tension and uneasiness when you are around. They may bring up your fiance’s former girlfriend (a lot) in your presence or ignore you at family functions. The good news is that you can try and work through that – you will be around for a lifetime. Hopefully they will be welcoming you with open arms and not folded ones. Some ways to get in your this “person’s” good graces is to always be graceful, appropriate and the bigger person. This is hard but in the long run it can save your marriage.
Maybe his parents take shots at you. You know, little digs, here and there. Which, is not cool, but rise above that nonsense! Never stoop to the level of immaturity that they might. Take the high road if possible. Do nice things for them. Whether it’s take them to lunch, send a hand written note (just because) or to thank them fora gift, gesture, or whatever…they will take notice. And if they don’t, that’s their prerogative and you’ll still be the classy person.
If you feel comfortable enough doing so ask them to meet with you sans your fiancé. Ask them why your relationship is not as close as you would it to be, and if there is anything you can do to win their approval. Sometimes putting them on the spot will immediately solve the situation.Other times they may be obstinate and your fiancé may have to step in to say something. But, first thing is first, show them you aren’t afraid of them, you love their son, and you want to make this work.
It might not be overnight, but family trouble is a common thing in marriages. Most of the time it can be solved with simple communication and understanding. Hopefully, they will come to their senses and love you as much as your significant other does. There is a reason why you two are getting hitched- they should realize that!

Wedding Stress

Wedding Stress
Wedding stress can come in various forms but how you deal with it can make it easier or harder to bear. You will experience ebbs and flows of the wedding process. And, stress will definitely be a five letter word you will experience. You will have so many details that consume your life, it can be quite stressful. However, it’s important to“not sweat the small stuff.”
It sounds a lot easier than it is. From bad etiquette to breached contracts to drama in your wedding party….it’s possible you may experience all or some of these situations. I could say grin and bear it, but that will only make you want to tear your hair out. There are some ways that you can unwind and naturally have some breathing room.
1. Assign roles and responsibilities to family members and bridal party

Everyone could use a little help here and there. Know your limits. If you don’t think you can handle a certain task, do not be afraid to ask your family and or bridesmaids. That is what they are there for. Remember when you asked them to stand by you on your wedding day? Well, they don’t just get to wear a pretty dress and smile. They should get their hands a little dirty too. They may not know you need help and you can’t assume someone will ask you. Don’t be a martyr.

2. Make sure to have fun
You’re getting married! You’re not planning a funeral. This is supposed to be a happy time filled with wonderful memories not nervous breakdowns and tears. Plan regular dates with your mate, and don’t forget your friends! A wine night with girlfriends or a fun night out of dancing may just be the remedy!
3. Do not let it consume your life
Don’t be obsessed with your wedding planning such that you only eat, sleep and breathe“the big day.”Remember you still have yourself, friends, and families to mingle with. Spend a day or two each month to hang out with your friends! Set aside every Friday to have a date with your prince and don’t talk about your wedding planning. Just like good old days. Free to chat about anything, except your wedding.
4. Exercise often and regularly
Not only will this help with toning up for your day, but also give you some“me time”and clear your head. There are many benefits to being physically fit both mentally and physically.

Pre-Wedding Don’ts

There are a few things a bride should avoid the week before your wedding! Here is our list of five Pre-Wedding Don’ts:
1. New Hair Color or drastic haircuts
Even if your colorist is the absolute best, avoid makingchanges to your hair within a week of your wedding.
If you want to refresh your hue without endangering your look, ask your colorist to put a clear gloss on your strands. Wedding trials and consultations start about three months prior to the actual day, and you should keep the same hairstyle throughout the process. Not only will the texture and style of your hair change if you get it chopped, but keep in mind something drastic may not look right with your dress’s neckline, veil, or wedding day jewelry. The closer you get to the big day,the more stressed and emotional you’ll be. You want to make all of these preparations and decisions while you’re still clear headed and calm.
2. A New Workout
Stick to the routine you’ve been doing.Now is not the time for new moves. Pulled muscles can take weeks to heal and you definitely don’t want to be too sore to get down on the dance floor. If your goal is to lose weight, make sure to start a new fitness program well before your dress fittings. And if you’re just looking for an amazing way to relieve pre-wedding stress grab a friend for a quick walk or run in the park.
3. Spray Tan Booths
Spray tanning in a booth may be a budget-friendly option for a safe, sunless glow, but there’s a good chance the color you get won’t match your skin tone as well as other fake tanning alternatives. Rather than stepping into a box—which can result in uneven color if you don’t hold your body just so—it’s best to have a specialist expertly apply the tanning solution so it’s evenly distributed and complements your skin color. And don’t forget to lightly exfoliate beforehand. The color will last longer and you’ll literally glow as you walk down the aisle.
4. Juice Cleanses
I like to think of food as fuel. You need calories to keep you alert and help you get through your crazy, busy weekend. It’s not the time to stop nourishing yourself. Juice cleanses are very low in calories, sapping your energy and making you irritable. And cleanses that include mostly fruit juices are high in sugar. The week before you should be eating well-balanced meals with a focus on fruits and vegetables and drinking plenty of water—and don’t skip any meals!
5. New-to-you Skincare Products Peels & Microdermabrasion
A peel or microderm abrasion session promises silky-smooth skin in the future, but it’s a total no-go the week before you wedding. Schedule any appointments for a peel, microderm abrasion, or other treatments like Botox, at least 2 weeks before your wedding in case there is any redness or bruising.Also, don’t change your skincare regimen if you have fewer than two weeks to go before your wedding. You should change it months in advance. Swapping in a new product could lead to allergic reaction, dryness, oiliness, or a bevy of other side effects that take time to correct. Your doctor can give you a personalized pre-wedding skin care routine, which will address your specific concerns to make sure your skin is radiant for the big day. Your dermatologist should be up there on your to-do list with the dress fittings and flowers.
So, just think about your big day and plan ahead! Pre-Wedding Don’ts can be avoided pretty easily and it doesn’t do you any good to stress about extra things anyway.

Wedding Crazies

Wedding Crazies
You’re a rational adult, right? Or should we say, were? You’ve never been prone to wedding crazies. Yet somehow, you’ve turned into the type of bride (and groom!) you swore you’d never be–the one who gives other brides a bad name–and you have no idea how you got here. Read on to find out how to take the crazy out of your wedding –plus, get advice for curing the wedding insanity pronto.
The Crazy: Irritable Bride (and Groom) Syndrome
It’s only two months into wedding planning, and you could open your own fight club. You can barely spend five minutes together without whipping out the gloves. Did you really just lose it because she wants Mexican for dinner? Congratulations, you’ve officially entered the World’s Dumbest Fight Zone.
The Cause:
Plain and simple, you’re suffering from planning fatigue. Your couple’s reserve has run dry: Too many wedding to dos and too little fun time have burned you both out. Fixating on the finish line (your wedding) at the expense of the day to-day is a common pitfall for engaged couples. But skimping on the sweet nothings can make you feel less connected and more irritable.
The Cure:
Quick! When’s the last time you knocked each other’s proverbial socks off? Still thinking? Yeah, that’s not a good sign. It’s time to look deep into each other’s eyes…and crack the hell up. It’s all about catching yourselves in time and realizing that you’re both being ridiculous and just need a break.

 

The Crazy: Budget Burnout
Your dad is seeing nothing but dollar signs. Instead of being excited, he actually loses a bit of color each time you mention the W-word.
The Cause:
Maybe the word stretched doesn’t even begin to describe what you’ve done to the original budget. So unless you are ponying up your own moola to cover the overages, it’s no mystery why Dad’s blood pressure is running high. Even if you’re staying in the lines, he may be suffering from sticker shock. If the last time he planned a wedding was his own,he probably isn’t too thrilled about what the cost of a wedding these days will do to his retirement prospects.
The Cure:
Take Pops out to dinner (and feel free to shamelessly ply him with steak to make him talk). Drag the touchy topic out into the open, so you can both get a clear idea of where things stand. Once he knows you’re on the same page and you’re willing to work with his budget, he’ll be more likely to show his excitement for you and join the planning committee.
The Crazy: Nuptial OCD
Pop quiz: What do cereal, global warming and puppies have in common? If they all managed to remind you of your wedding, you’ve got it bad. Yep, you’ve become one of those brides who can only talk about her wedding.
The Cause:
It’s easy to become so fixated on the wedding that you lose sight of everything–and everyone–else.
The Cure:
It should be one of the best days of your life, but it shouldn’t be your entire life. Channel the you that you used to be pre-engagement. Now tap back into your former fun self.
Wedding crazies don’t need to run your life if you are able to peel yourself away and see it from a distance! The next time you feel stressed, take a deep breath and reboot.

How to Plan a Wedding Without It Consuming Your Life

There is no doubt that planning a wedding can be very time consuming. It is easy to get caught up in the joys and stresses of wedding planning and to spend all of your free time thinking about and working on the plans for your big day. But it isn’t healthy to focus all of your energy and time on wedding plans. You still need to make time for other hobbies, activities, and events. (Your friends are excited for you, but they’d appreciate talking about something besides your wedding sometimes.) Here is how to plan your wedding without letting the big day consume your life.

checklistPrioritize

Too many brides waste precise time and energy on tasks and decisions that aren’t that important. Instead, they should focus on the essentials and tasks most important to them. If there are traditional wedding tasks that you don’t want to have to worry about, it is okay to cross them off the wedding checklist. It is also a good idea to delegate when possible. Your friends and family love to feel involved.

 

Mange Your Time WiselyTime Line

Now is a great time to learn how to create schedules and to-do lists. It will keep you from getting overwhelmed and will help you manage your time. Figure out exactly what needs to be done and when. There is no need to worry about all the wedding tasks at once. If you break your to-do list into manageable chunks, you will be able to enjoy your wedding planning with less stress.

 

Have Some Fun

It is easy to get caught up in all the wedding tasks you need to complete before the big day, but don’t forget to take a break to have some fun. At least once a week, take a day off from wedding planning and spend time with friends, family, and your fiancé. Also, remember to make time for yourself. Go the gym. Treat yourself to lunch. Stay in your pajamas and watch movies. The wedding to-do list will still be there tomorrow.

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Local Vendor Spotlight: Bagable Gifts

Bagable Gifts is a Chicago-based company that specializes in high-end custom gift bags for weddings and events.  Now, we aren’t just talking any old paper gift bag with a few snacks and treats. These swoon-worthy customized canvas creations are true swag bags in every sense of the word. Keeping with tradition, the bags are totally build upon the theme of your wedding and event and can be as simple or as over-the-top as your heart desires!

When it comes to alleviating last minute wedding stress, this vendor is a gem that will take care of the personal details your guests will see upon arrival to your wedding. Whether you opt to leave these bags in each hotel room for out of town guests to feel more at home, or you gift each girl in your bridal party a swag bag, the options are endless and their team will help you come up with just the right contents for any theme.  The idea behind Bagable Gifts, is really about delivering comfort and style in the form of hand packaged, thoughtful gifts. And the packaging is truly what sets it apart. From the vast array of monograms and personalization’s you can choose for your bag , to the hand created labels for each treat, these one of a kind gifts will have guests talking for years to come.

And they’re not just for weddings! Bagable Gifts is perfect for promoting your business as well. Lately, the company has been busy working with Chicago Social, Glossed and Found and Trump Hotels along with countless bridal clients. And what’s even better? The bags are all reusable and eco-friendly. What could be more chic than that? So whether it’s a newlywed monogram or your company’s logo, this company is well worth checking out.