It’s not unusual for a groom to take a backseat when it comes to wedding planning. Many men feel ill equipped to contribute any worthwhile suggestions during the process. In turn, many brides feel frustrated by their partner’s seeming lack of interest and wish he would offer to alleviate some of the stress. If you’re having a hard time getting your groom excited or involved in the wedding planning, try these quick and easy steps:
- Communicate: First and foremost, tell your beau how you’re feeling as a result of his indifference about the wedding planning. It’s quite possible that he’s been staying uninvolved so as to not get in your way. Let him know that you desire his opinions and long for his help in the planning of your big day. Once he understands how much stress you’re under and that you actually want his assistance, most likely he’ll be more eager to get involved.
- Delegate: Delegate some of the wedding planning responsibilities to the groom. After all, it’s his wedding too. Try to find tasks that might be of interest to him. Most guys are not going to want to be responsible for selecting the flowers (nor are you probably going to want to trust his opinion on that one). Instead, ask him to take responsibility for things he might enjoy like planning the honeymoon, creating a reception playlist, deciding the theme/menu for the rehearsal dinner, or choosing the cocktails and appetizers for your guests.
- Incorporate: As much as you might hate to relinquish control over certain areas of the wedding that you’ve been dreaming about your whole life, remind yourself that this day is about you and your fiancé as a couple. Sit down with your man and get his feedback. Try to incorporate his ideas and personality into the wedding and reception. Design a groom’s cake dedicated to his favorite sports team or pastime, choose a menu that involves his favorite cuisine, or select a wedding theme that represents something unique about your relationship, dating history, or interests.
The key to getting the groom involved is letting him know that this wedding is a celebration of the both of you. Once he realizes his significance and gains an idea of how he can help, chances are he’ll be happy to serve.