How to Be a Great Maid of Honor

Being a friend’s Maid of Honor is both flattering and intimidating. On one hand, the bride wants you standing next to her on the biggest day of her life. On the other, you may be nervous about your duties and skills as her #2 in command. Don’t tie yourself up in tulle knots; review the tips below and rise to the occasion.

Be the go-to girl. Mean it when you say, “I’m here for whatever you need.” The wedding planning process is chaotic in the final weeks, so make sure the bride and groom know you are willing to take on any assignment they give you. Don’t sacrifice every moment of your day, but be empathetic to the details swirling around the bride’s head. Be as involved as you can be, and remind your friends you are there for support.

Play tough. Be a contender when it comes to supporting your friend on her wedding day. If two bridesmaids don’t get along, tell them to zip it for the sake of the bride. Tell the caterer your friend can’t discuss tipping the wait staff until after the reception. Bottom line: whatever the circumstance, respect the bride and groom’s day of happiness, and make sure others do too.

Minimize stress. A bride’s wedding marks the happiest day of her life; unfortunately, it can also be the most stressful. Help your friend to keep her cool by:

• Offering to take care of last-minute details, like picking up her dress from the tailor or calling to confirm the cake delivery time
• Ensuring out-of-town guests are settled and comfortable. Offer your cell phone number to those in need of directions or other info
• Keep your eye on the clock and coordinate arrival times with the minister and Best Man.
• Make sure the bride has enough to eat and drink before the ceremony. Low blood sugar will only worsen edgy nerves.

Make the special moments count. As Maid of Honor, you are obviously an important person in the bride’s life. Make sure she knows how much you mean to her as well. Write a toast that encapsulates your friendship and feelings for her. She will be moved by the gesture and will remember it for the rest of her life.

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