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How To Help The Bride

How To Help The Bride

Are you a bridesmaid, friend, or family member wondering how to help the bride? That’s very thoughtful of you. That being said, there is a right and wrong way to offer your help to a bride. We will help you navigate the do’s and don’ts of how to help the bride with her wedding planning.

Do’s:

Help her assemble wedding items.

Especially the week of the wedding, a brides to-do list is massive. Help the bride by offering to do tasks she doesn’t need to be present for such as putting together welcome bags. If the bride is putting together her own centerpieces another great way to help is to put them together for her. The more tasks you can take off a bride’s to-do list, the less overwhelmed she’ll be.

Treat her to coffee and/or food.

It’s easy for a bride to get exhausted from wedding planning and organizing as the wedding day approaches. Coffee is a great way to show the bride you care and to help her get her tasks done. The day of the wedding it is very important the bride remembers to eat. Help her out by offering to bring her favorite breakfast so she feels ready for her wedding weekend.

Simply ask, “What can I do to help you?”

Sometimes brides have everything under control, however it’s always helpful to know there are extra sets of hands to help. Some bride’s feel awkward asking for help as they don’t want to bother anyone. Because of this, it makes it easier for them to get their tasks done without having to worry about inconveniencing anyone.

Don’ts:

Ask the bride questions you can easily google yourself.

We’ve established brides have endless tasks as their wedding day approaches. Forget the address to the reception? Phone a friend. Don’t remember what time the ceremony starts? Ask around. Brides have enough ducks to keep in a row without having to answer unnecessary questions.

Give too many opinions when helping the bride.

Brides have dreamed of and planned for their wedding day. If they want the centerpieces off-centered, great! If they want chairs to be stacked upside down, you got it! The name of the game is if you offer help, you’re helping the bride fulfill her vision, not your own.

Offer to help, but then don’t help.

Often wedding tasks have to be done in a timely manner due to a busy schedule. It’s important to not distract from the task at hand. If the bride has asked you to help make sure you’re being productive as opposed to socializing. You always have the option to politely decline if you don’t want to help. Better to say no than add more stress to the bride.



Are you a bride to be? What are ways you would like your loved ones to help, or not help, you? Tell us in the comments below! For more wedding planning inspiration and advice, check out more Chicago Wedding Blog posts below.

bachelorette party

Bachelorette Party

Technically, it’s the maid or matron of honor’s job to scout out the bachelorette party but there’s no harm in hinting! If you’re bold, sassy and sexy – and hey, you are – why not try something unique and perhaps a little risqué?

There’s a hot work out called Pole, and while the name may be tied to strip clubs, this dancing fantasy is not about taking your clothes off. Pole dancing can be more of a gymnastic art form than stripper girl. It’s a total body work out that also lets women’s inner kittens come out to play.

Dance studios such as Naperville’s Tease Dance and Fitness or Geneva’s Tiger Lily Vertical Fitness offer private parties on the weekends for bachelorette parties. You’ll be instructed in the fine art of pole dancing by a certified pole instructor. Learn how to strut around the pole and do spins like the fairy! It’s a great way to burn those calories off as well as get your sexy on! You can go barefoot or bring heels to show off those legs. The attire is usually general work out style – shorts, tank and a sports bra. Or, you can spice it up with boas, sparkly bras and bride short shorts. There’s no modesty here and no judgment!

If you’re not into dancing around a pole, they also offer “strip tease classes” that give you moves to make your man melt! Again, no clothes come off, and the sultry, sensual moves are taught by professional, certified instructors.

Call each studio for more information on pricing but most studios are reasonable. It’s a lot of fun and a safe, woman empowering environment. Check with the studio about how many girls are able to fit on one dance room. They have candles, large mirrors and teach you stretching before warming up the poles.

Go give it a chance or if you’re the one planning it, give your bride a night they won’t forget!

Wedding Dress Creator

Click here for the Wedding Dress Creator

If you flip through a wedding magazine, you will notice there are endless styles and options for wedding dresses. You have to find a dress that fits your personal style, wedding theme, and body type. The online wedding dress creator lets you create your dream look from head to toe. It even lets you test out the look with your skin tone and hair color. You can also use the site to play with bridesmaid looks. Here are a few tips for using the wedding dress creator.

Read the neckline guide and the silhouette guide. The guides not only tell you the names of the different styles, but they also offer advice on choosing a style that will work on your body type.

Read “Wedding Color Theory.” It would be nice if choosing your wedding colors was as simple as picking your favorite color, but there are a lot of factors to consider to make sure your wedding colors look as great you imagined.

Involve your bridesmaids. They can offer feedback on your favorite designs and help create bridesmaids looks.

Print out or save your looks. You can take these pictures to the dress store, florist, hair salon, etc.

 

 

 

 

How to Be a Great Maid of Honor

Being a friend’s Maid of Honor is both flattering and intimidating. On one hand, the bride wants you standing next to her on the biggest day of her life. On the other, you may be nervous about your duties and skills as her #2 in command. Don’t tie yourself up in tulle knots; review the tips below and rise to the occasion.

Be the go-to girl. Mean it when you say, “I’m here for whatever you need.” The wedding planning process is chaotic in the final weeks, so make sure the bride and groom know you are willing to take on any assignment they give you. Don’t sacrifice every moment of your day, but be empathetic to the details swirling around the bride’s head. Be as involved as you can be, and remind your friends you are there for support.

Play tough. Be a contender when it comes to supporting your friend on her wedding day. If two bridesmaids don’t get along, tell them to zip it for the sake of the bride. Tell the caterer your friend can’t discuss tipping the wait staff until after the reception. Bottom line: whatever the circumstance, respect the bride and groom’s day of happiness, and make sure others do too.

Minimize stress. A bride’s wedding marks the happiest day of her life; unfortunately, it can also be the most stressful. Help your friend to keep her cool by:

  • Offering to take care of last-minute details, like picking up her dress from the tailor or calling to confirm the cake delivery time
  • Ensuring out-of-town guests are settled and comfortable. Offer your cell phone number to those in need of directions or other info
  • Keep your eye on the clock and coordinate arrival times with the minister and Best Man.
  • Make sure the bride has enough to eat and drink before the ceremony. Low blood sugar will only worsen edgy nerves.

Make the special moments count. As Maid of Honor, you are obviously an important person in the bride’s life. Make sure she knows how much you mean to her as well. Write a toast that encapsulates your friendship and feelings for her. She will be moved by the gesture and will remember it for the rest of her life.

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