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10 Inspiring Wedding Quotes

Some brides lose sight of what is truly important when planning a wedding. It is easy to get caught up in all the details of planning and to worry about trivial decisions or fears. One way to keep yourself focused is by surrounding yourself with positive messages. Here are 10 wedding and love related quotes to help you through the wedding planning process. Post your favorites somewhere you will see them often, and read them whenever you feel yourself starting to slip into bridezilla territory.

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  1. “A wedding is a party, not a performance. If at the end of the day, you are married to the one you love, then everything went perfectly.” – Unknown Author
  2. “We didn’t realize we were making memories; we were just having fun.” – Unknown Author
  3. “All it takes is faith, trust.” – Peter Pan
  4. “Lean on each other’s strengths; forgive each other’s weaknesses.” – Unknown Author
  5. “Eat, Drink, and Be Married.” – Unknown Author
  6. “Love doesn’t make the world go round. It is what makes the ride worthwhile.” – Unknown Author
  7. “Being in a relationship isn’t about the kissing or the dates or going out. It’s about being with that one person who makes you happy in a way no one else can.” – Unknown Author
  8. “The couples that are ‘meant to be’ are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out even stronger than before.” – Unknown Author
  9. “Marriage is getting to have a sleepover with your best friend every single night of the week.” – Unknown Author
  10. “Sometimes you just have to quit thinking so much. If it feels right, it probably is, so just go with it.” – Unknown Author

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How to Handle a Momzilla

Brides often get a bad rep for being bridezillas, but the mother-of-the-bride can be just as demanding and troublesome. If your mom (or the mother-of-the-groom) is getting a little out of hand, use these simple tips to help save the peace at your wedding.

Warn Others

If you are dealing with a Momzilla, don’t keep it a secret. Warn your wedding planner and other vendors. They can help you handle a Momzilla who is interfering with your wedding plans, and they will appreciate knowing in advance what to expect. For instance, if you don’t tell the DJ to ignore all song requests from your over-involved mom, you may end up listening to all of your mother’s favorite songs at the wedding instead of the songs you and your fiancé requested. While you should consider your parents’ opinions, the day ultimately belongs to you and your fiancé.

Plan Ahead

If you know you will be dealing with a Momzilla, make plans before she can interfere. For instance, if your Momzilla will be too outspoken about the dress you wear, go shopping with friends to find the perfect dress. Then take your mom back to see the gown once you have made a decision about the dress you want.

Keep Her Busy

Momzillas want to be involved, and they will be very offended if you don’t take any of their suggestions. To avoid an argument, choose a task that isn’t too important to you and assign it to the Momzilla. This could be something simple like creating the welcome bags for out of town guests or something more involved such as the rehearsal dinner. Giving the Momzilla a job will not only make her feel involved, but it will also keep her busy so you can get more important planning done.

 

Happy wedding planning, and best of luck dealing with your Momzilla.

Resolutions to Common Wedding Woes

Planning a wedding can be the most magical time in your life, but it can also create the greatest conflicts. It’s common to face disagreements and disappointments during the process. Here are a few helpful resolutions for some of the most common wedding arguments:

Problem: He doesn’t care about the wedding details.

Resolution: Task your man with specific tasks related to the wedding that might be of interest to him. To get your groom involved, ask him to plan the honeymoon, help with a reception playlist, or sample food from the caterer. By delineating specific responsibilities, he’s less likely to feel overwhelmed and more likely to start helping.

Problem: You hate each other’s attendants.

Resolution: You may not agree with your fiance’s choice of best man, or he might go crazy at the thought of spending so much time with your maid of honor, but the important thing is to be supportive and understanding of each other’s decision. The wedding is a huge moment in both of your lives and it’s imperative that you surround yourself with the people that mean the most to you as individuals. If serious issues arise, talk to your partner about your concerns so they can be addressed before the wedding day.

Problem: He thinks you’re being a wedding-obsessed bridezilla.

Resolution: The truth of the matter is, if he’s accusing you of bridezilla behavior, you might just be guilty. Set aside time for the two of you where the wedding is off-limits. No conversations, no magazines, no color swatches. Make time to be together and enjoy one another’s company without the stress of the wedding hanging over your heads.

Problem: His guest list is too long and/or includes people you don’t care for.

Resolution: If the guest list is too long and you’re concerned about finances, have an honest conversation. Work together on trimming guests for both of your lists, or set a specific number of guests that you’re each allowed to invite, taking into consideration the size of your families. If there are people on the list that you wish not to be included, offer an explanation, but make sure your reasons are valid. Don’t be persuaded by old grudges or petty jealousies by the presence of an old flame or former friend.

Problem: He doesn’t agree with how the money is being spent.

Resolution: Have a budget meeting. Sit down and discuss the various expenditures associated with the wedding and how you both feel the finances would best be divided. If he wants more cash in the honeymoon fund and you’re holding out for a designer dress, figure out other areas to compromise and cut costs so you can both be happy with the outcome.

3 Signs You’re a Bridezilla

We’ve all heard the term bridezilla, but no bride-to-be likes to think she fits the description. Well, the sad news is, you might be less charming than you think. Here are a few signs that you are sneaking in to the dangerous bridezilla zone.

Everyone is Suddenly Busy

When you first got engaged, everyone was excited for you. Your mom, bridesmaids, and soon-to-be mother-in-law were always available to listen to your latest wedding ideas. Suddenly, everyone is too busy to answer their phone or run another wedding errand with you. While this could just be that everyone is actually busy, it could be a sign that you are annoying everyone involved in the wedding.

You are 100% in Control

Yes, this is your big day, but unfortunately, it is not only about you. Remember those bridesmaids you asked to be the wedding; well, some decisions are important to them, such as the shower, the bachelorette party and maybe even the dress. If you find yourself planning your own shower or bachelorette party, you may be overstepping some boundaries. Also, don’t forget about the parents. While it is your day, you should consider the requests that are important to the other people involved.

You are Being Unrealistic

Sure, you might have been dreaming about this day since you were a little girl, but some of your dreams might not be realistic. You don’t want to physically, financially or emotionally strain yourself, your fiancé, your family or your friends. Every time you make a decision about the wedding, take the time to consider how it will impact everyone involved. If you start making unrealistic requests, you are on your way to becoming an infamous bridezilla.

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Bridezilla

Planning a wedding can be stressful, there’s no doubt about it. It’s expensive and time-consuming and no one seems to care about it quite as much as you do. With all of the added stress, it’s easy to become a little irrational and difficult to deal with, despite your best intentions. Here are a few ways to avoid becoming a total bridezilla in the months leading up to your nuptials…

Keep Your Priorities Straight: Yes, there are invitations to be mailed, flowers to be arranged, dresses to be ordered, food to be selected, but what’s the point of all of that? This wedding, above everything else, is about uniting your life with another, making a public declaration of your love, and committing to become husband and wife. As important as the favors or centerpieces or seating chart might seem right now, at the end of the day, your wedding is about you and your fiancé. When you feel the pressure of wedding planning creeping up on you, take a moment to remember why you’re putting together a wedding in the first place.

Keep Yourself Organized: Regardless of how big or small your wedding day is going to be, there are still tasks to be done. One of the biggest causes of bridezilladom is overwhelming stress. Avoid the added anxiety by staying on top of things. Buy a wedding planner, make checklists, and plan your time efficiently.

Continue Living Your Life: Although it may feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day or days in the month to get everything done before saying “I do,” it simply can’t be all wedding, all the time. You (and most definitely your fiancé) need a break from the wedding stress from time to time. Set aside non-wedding hours each week where you can spend an evening with your partner having fun and talking about anything but the upcoming nuptials. Or set up a girls’ night with some friends or an afternoon of solitary pampering.

Ask for Help: You don’t need to carry the full weight the wedding on your shoulders. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your friends, family, and most certainly, your fiancé (Operation Groom Involvement). Even if you’re a total control freak, there are always tasks that can be done by others, you just need to reach out to the people in your life. However, when you ask…

Be Respectful of Others: Be considerate of time and expense when asking friends and family for help. Your maid of honor and bridesmaids should be there for you in your time of need, but it’s unreasonable to expect them to be at your beck and call 24 hours a day. Be honest with them about your needs and schedule a time that’s convenient for them. Be thoughtful about their budgetary concerns and limitations when picking out dresses, shoes, and activities they’re expected to participate in. Wedding Timelines.

Show Your Appreciation: Don’t forget to say ‘thanks’ to everyone who’s lent a helping hand throughout the planning process. Nothing says bridezilla more than an ungrateful or entitled bride. Be sure to express your sincerest gratitude to everyone—friends, relatives, vendors—who give of their time and finances to help make your wedding day a beautiful reality. Thank you card etiquette.