Ten Ways to Involve Loved Ones In Your Wedding

Your wedding day is a great opportunity to celebrate and honor the men and women who mean so much to you in life. Here are ten ways to involve family, friends, and coworkers of all ages in your wedding festivities…



  1. An obvious way to involve those closest to you is by asking them to participate in your bridal party as a bridesmaid or groomsmen, with the highest honors going to the maid/matron of honor and best man.
  2. If your bridal party is getting too large, but you’d still like a dear pal to be involved, invite him or her to be an honorary bridesmaid or groomsmen, or, if he or she is between the ages of 9 and 16, a junior bridesmaid or groomsmen.
  3. Bring together the pint-sized people most special to you by inviting them to serve as ring bearers or flower girls during the ceremony.
  4. Grab a few gal or guy pals and ask them to serve as guestbook attendants, greeting guests as they arrive at the wedding or reception and ensuring that they sign the guestbook.
  5. During the wedding ceremony, select a few friends or loved ones to perform a reading of a favorite scripture, poem, or quote.
  6. Musically gifted friends can add a personal touch to your wedding day by singing or playing an instrument during the ceremony or at the reception.
  7. Choose a few upbeat friends to dole out programs to guests as they arrive at the wedding.
  8. If you’re hosting a Christian ceremony, ask a few children between the ages of 10 and 13 to light candles on the altar before the nuptials begin.
  9. Men who aren’t serving as groomsmen can fill in as ushers, welcoming guests and escorting them to their seats.
  10. Personalize your wedding ceremony even more by asking a close friend or relative to officiate the nuptials.

Family-Friendly Wedding

Determining whether or not to have kids at your wedding can be a heated debate for many couples, but assuming you decide to extend an invite to pint-sized guests, here are a few tips to ensure a fun, family-friendly day for everyone…

Special Seating: When deciding the seating chart for the reception, pay special consideration to the families that have kids. Offer special tables strictly for kids, or group families together so the parents can talk while the kids interact with one another. Guests with small children may appreciate a table near the exit or the restrooms, but you never want anyone at your wedding to feel snubbed or slighted in any way so make sure that families still feel apart of the fun.

Kid Menu: Providing a kid’s menu at the reception is a great way to please parents and save a little dough. Since kids are often picky eaters, consider offering a special meal just for them with kid-friendly fare like chicken tenders or grilled cheese. Often, your caterer will not only be happy to provide age-appropriate food, it can save you money since it’s less expensive to prepare and less of it will be consumed.

Goodie Bags: Pass out goodie bags to children instead of wedding favors. Load a gift bag with fun games, activities, and crafts to keep kids entertained during the reception. Head over to the local dollar store or craft shop to stock up on coloring books, markers/crayons, puzzles, bead sets, or other fun toys and games. Go the extra mile and create gender- or age-specific bags awaiting each guest at their seat.

Childcare: Alleviate the stress of having kids running through your reception hall by offering a childcare room. If the venue allows it, book an additional room and hire a couple teens or college students to babysit for the evening. Parents will love being able to party with you while knowing their kids are being safely taken care of nearby.

Entertainment: Create a kid-friendly corner, or chaperoned room, full of entertainment for the children. For younger kids, set up a TV showing cartoons or create an arts-and-crafts station. Older kids will love wasting the night away at a video game station or playing board games.