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Incorporating the little ones in your day

Incorporating the Little Ones in your Day

Incorporating the Little Ones in your Day

Setting guidelines and expectations are crucial if you want kids at the wedding (or in the wedding). For example, perhaps you have an adorable little chicky poo in mind as a suitable flower girl candidate aka your childhood friend’s little girl. But when it comes to your sister’s kids, your neighbors’ teenage son, or your boss’s brood of four you really want to avoid having to invite them (or have them show up uninvited) to the wedding. Here’s the good news; you can do all that and avoid conflict. Have your flower girl and consider giving your sister a free pass to bring her kiddos since she is after all your sister.

Here’s the bad news though. You will look like a total hypocrite if you invite select kids but don’t allow others. And you’re walking a fine line between doing what you want and being rude slash hurting feelings. Tread lightly. No one wants to see a humiliated girl in a pretty white dress. Nobody.

 

Incorporating the little ones in your day

Mark Janzen Photography

If you do end up having kids as guests, prepare accordingly. Depending on your planner or coordinator (if you have one) and how rad she is, she may bring snacks, games, and activities for the kids in order to keep them busy and out of your hair during the reception (and ceremony if said kids are spectators and not part of the wedding party). If it’s in the budget, look into hiring some sort of separate entertainment for the kids like a babysitter, a clown, a fairy princess, or some sort of person who can make sure the kids don’t get bored, restless, or out of hand on their own. Check with your venue to see if there’s a room this can be set aside, preferably close to the main event so parents are within a close enough distance should a problem arise. Ask the caterer for options kids will eat and get some juice boxes. Lot’s of juice boxes. Or sparkling pop for the older kids for the champagne toast.

You can make it work, and to your expectations. Just know that with kids in the (sticky) situation, your dance floor might attract some younger dancing kings and queens.

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Flower girl portrait: Let’s put aside for a second the fact that this little girl is just too cute for words, and her perfectly coifed bouffant hairdo is beyond perfection. The idea of having your littlest attendant sit for a portrait style shot is a great idea. For one, it’s timeless and is actually a nod to the days when brides and their wedding party sat for a painted portrait instead of all day photo shoots during the wedding. A few quick shots of just your flower girl is a classic and lovely way to mark the day and in just a few years ( or way down the road) when they are all grown up, it will make a perfect memento to always remember their part in your marriage. We LOVE this idea so much and we hope to see some serious little lady poses in future weddings to come!

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Rustic Wedding Charm:  We may sound like a broken record at this point when it comes to our love of rustic, natural elegance for weddings.  This stunning display features wooden rounds that look freshly cut from the woods to create a warm, natural feel perfect for so many types of weddings. This look could enhance a winter-white wedding or a summer soiree that brings the outdoors in.  You can even carry the theme through with wooden coasters, menus created on thin slabs of wood, and rustic farm tables with no linens just maybe a burlap runner down the middle.

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Champagne Fountains: What ever happened to the champagne fountain? It used to go hand in hand with high-class weddings and events ( hello, haven’t you seen The Great Gatsby or even a single episode of Downton Abbey?)  SO yes, we are declaring the champagne fountain is officially back. And whether you look at it as a throwback, or a really fun and chic way to explore your love of champagne, the look just screams “Time to celebrate!” And we , of course, are all about that! For an added touch of nostalia, try seeing if your venue will serve other drinks in fun champagne coups. It really does make everything taste so much better!

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Entertaining Children at Weddings

This can often be a touchy subject, because every family is different and each couple has their own style and vision of their wedding. There are always open-ended questions about how to address children on the invitation and what to do with children on the big day. If you plan on having more than a couple of children at your event, it’s a good idea to provide a source of entertainment, so their parents can share in enjoying your happiness without worry. Here are a few ideas for you to brainstorm.

Activity Packs or Tables

Put together some little packages that include small but fun activities for the children to entertain them throughout the wedding. These could include coloring books, markers, puzzles, stickers, board games, snacks and more. Or, work with your venue organizer to arrange for a table with these types of activities where children can play together.

Children’s Menu

Most venues will have an option to provide kid-friendly food for your little guests. This may ease a lot of trouble as many kids are picky eaters and may refuse to try, let alone appreciate, the type of food you may be serving to everyone else.

Supervisors

It can be valuable to assign a friend or hire a babysitting service to watch over the group of children at the wedding. This way, they won’t disturb your guests or your wedding activities, and you and your guests won’t have to worry about watching them yourselves.

Kid-friendly DJ

Talk to your music provider about playing some songs that most kids will love, to ensure they don’t get bored or disrupt the adults. You might even have your DJ play a short, music-related activity for the kids.

Performers

Consider hiring a performer such as a magician, face painter, or balloon artist. This way, children at your wedding will have as much fun as you’re having, and you might even get a few fun-loving adults involved too!

Miscellaneous

Entertain the kids by providing them with disposable cameras, blowing bubbles, kiddy cocktails, scavenger hunts, blow up guitars, and more! There are hundreds of ideas out there that can make having children at your wedding a joy. Just use a little creativity, and you’ll be an instant hit for the kids!

 

 

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Filling Wedding Roles

Ultimately, your wedding day is about you and your fiancé, but there are several other people who are a part of the big day. The list of wedding positions extends far beyond the bride and groom, giving you plenty of opportunities to incorporate dear friends and special loved ones into your nuptials. Ultimately, it’s up to you to determine how large and involved your wedding will be, but here are a few ideas of positions that may need to be filled:

Bridesmaids: These are the women who will stand beside the bride on the big day and lend their support throughout the wedding process, led by the fearless leader, the maid/matron of honor. The number of bridesmaids (or whether you’ll have any at all) is your call, but they should all be women that either the bride or the groom have a close relationship with. Female tweens and teens can join in the festivities, as well, as junior bridesmaids.

Groomsmen: These are essentially the male version of the bridesmaids, led by the best man. Ideally, the number of groomsmen will be the same as the number of bridesmaids so that everyone is partnered up for the wedding and reception.

Flower Girl(s): This is typically a young girl, usually between the ages of 4 and 8 (although slightly younger or older girls are fine), that walks down the aisle prior to the bride to sprinkle rose petals. Having multiple flower girls is totally acceptable, especially if you have several nieces, cousins, or children of your own.

Ring Bearer: This little guy is also between the ages of four and eight and walks down the aisle either beside the flower girl or just before her, carrying a pillow with two rings attached. Since most five-year-old boys aren’t the most reliable, the rings attached to the pillow are usually fakes.

Ushers: One step down from the groomsmen, these guys still don tuxes (or nice suits if you prefer) and assist with pre-wedding festivities. Their main job includes seating guests at the wedding and possibly pulling a runner down the aisle before the bride makes her entrance. Usually two to four guys are needed as ushers, but groomsmen can certainly fill this role if you don’t have extra men to use. Beyond Bridesmaids and Groomsmen.

Guestbook/Program Attendants: Anywhere from one to three individuals can fill these roles, regardless of their gender. Essentially, these attendants are stationed near the main entrance of the ceremony site to greet guests, pass out programs, and motivate individuals to sign the guestbook.

Reader/Singer/Musician: A great way to incorporate friends or family into the ceremony is by asking them to do a reading of a Bible passage, poem, or quote during the wedding. If you’ve got talented friends that you’d like to get involved, ask them to sing or play a song during the ceremony or the reception. Be sure to ask your wedding DJ to provide the proper audio equipment to accommodate your choices.

Officiant: One of the most surefire ways to personalize your ceremony is to hire an officiant who is close to both the bride and the groom. If you’re actively involved in a house of faith, ask the minister to oversee the nuptials, or if you have a close family member who is in a religious vocation, or works as a judge or ship captain, hire them. Otherwise, approach a trusted friend or family member about the possibility. If they’re interested, they can easily be ordained online, for 100 bucks or less, to legally officiate the wedding.