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Wedding Registry Do’s and Don’ts for Modern Couples

Not Your Grandmother’s Nuptials: Wedding Registry Do’s and Don’ts for Modern Couples

wedding registryOld wisdom says to keep the registry on the down low; uncivilized talk of gifts occurs in whispers behind kitchen doors or cupped hands. Modern etiquette recognizes the practicality of the wedding registry, and a lot of things have changed since your grandmother’s wedding. In fact, it’s a recognized truth that etiquette evolves–organizations such as the Hayward Area Historical Society have even created exhibits highlighting the differences between today’s good manners and etiquette of yesteryear.

To List the Gift Registry…Or Not

Traditional etiquette experts who follow Emily Post frown on including the gift registry information on wedding invitations, although it is seen as proper form to add the registry locations on bridal shower invites. Modern couples have long ignored Ms. Post and emblazoned registry information on tasteful inserts that come with the growing package of direction sheets and response cards found inside a wedding invite. Modern etiquette experts either agree with this practice or collude to look the other way because they recognize the practicality of the measure. Guests don’t want to wait until the bride’s sister tells Aunt Sally, who can tell them, where the couple is registered. In the pace of modern living, no one has time for that.

A Registry That’s Refined and Online

Couples who want to go big and formal, who just like old traditions or who have an adamant grandmother or two on the guest list can get around the ban on registry inclusion with technology. Services such as let you create free wedding websites, and you can also use blog tools including Blogger or WordPress to keep guests informed about wedding plans. List your wedding site URL in the wedding invitation or in an insert, inviting guests to share your wedding journey. You can link to your registry on the site as well as share updates, pictures and stories about the big day.

Choose Registry Carefully

There aren’t hard rules about registry item selection, and you aren’t obligated to include an entire collection of china. Modern couples tend to register a mix of traditional and contemporary items. Select things you would enjoy for your home, but keep your guests in mind. Not everyone has deep pockets, so include gift ideas in a range of prices. For those who have a tighter budget, include items such as dish towels, glasses, and utensils. For those guests who want to spend a little more, include kitchenware from your favorite designs, such as the Kate Spade line found at at Macy’s, or choose select pieces of crystal from their Waterford collection. Finally, simply asking for cash isn’t as taboo as it used to be, especially if you need assistance with a down payment for a home or other large purchase, though it’s a good idea to give gift options as well.

Something Small, Something for All

A number of department stores offer great registry options. Since individuals can also order online with these stores, you don’t have to worry about access for guests. Some couples like to support small business, but registering with a single store that is only available in limited areas places undue stress on gift buying. If you’re choosing to support a small business, consider a limited second registry with a major chain for out-of-town guests.

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Bridal Registry: 5 Items Every Bride Needs

Creating the wedding registry can be very overwhelming, especially if you have little experience in the kitchen or other household endeavors. When you get to the store, you may be distracted by the beautiful china and wedding picture frames, but don’t forget these essential items.

Mixing Bowls

You can never have too many mixing bowls. Don’t believe me? Just look at a few recipes and you will discover that just one dish can use several bowls. Also, consider requesting various sizes. Sometimes you may only need to break up an egg; other times you will need to mix several cups of dry ingredients. Your life will be easier, if you try to do these tasks in the appropriate sized bowl. Bed, Bath & Beyond offers a great set that comes with several sizes in fun colors.

Measuring Cups

Even if you already have a kitchen stocked with measuring cups, register for more. There is nothing worse than being in the middle of a recipe and having to wash out a measuring cup because it was already used. Having multiple sets will save you time and sanity. This collapsible set from Bed, Bath & Beyond makes storing the cups effortless. No more jammed kitchen drawers.

A Food Processor

If you plan to have kids (or your future husband is a picky eater), the food processor will become your favorite tool. You can make your own baby food instead of buying expensive, processed baby food, and you can hide vegetables in everything from desserts to lasagna. This gadget is also great for making homemade sauces.

A Crockpot with a Timer

Crockpots are one of the best inventions in the world. You throw everything inside before you leave in the morning, and when you get home at night, dinner is done. You can make everything from dessert to appetizers to one-pan dinners. The best crockpots have a timer, since many recipes cook for a specific amount of time. You simply set the timer, and the crockpot will stop cooking when the time is up (but it will still keep the dish warm). A good choice is this six quart programmable crockpot at Bed, Bath & Beyond.

Cute Serving Trays

Even the simplest dishes (pepperoni and chess, veggies and dip) will look extravagant on cute serving trays. These will come in handy when you have to add a dish to a holiday dinner or guests unexpectedly show up for an impromptu dinner party. Stores such as Macy’s, Target, and Bed, Bath & Beyond offer dishes in a variety of colors, shapes, and sizes. Whether your style is modern or classic, you can find the perfect dishes.

These are just a few of the items every kitchen needs, but these are the items that will make your life easier. The less time and energy  you (or your husband, if you are lucky enough to  find one that cooks) spend in the kitchen, the more time and energy you will to enjoy your new life together.