go to your neutral corner

Go to your Neutral Corner

Ah, engaged life. Fancy parties in your honor, a legitimate excuse to plunk down thousands for one dress, and so many more sweet activities and planning. You never expected the downside: hissing at each other in bridal registry departments and screaming matches over the wedding guest list. The engagement period can be a minefield of hot topics that can trigger huge blowouts — sometimes  chiavari chairs are not JUST chairs. How about you try and go to your neutral corner for a minute and keep in mind some important tips!
Unless you are both orphans, you must expect family issues to come to the fore during the pre-wedding planning. You have to keep in mind that not only will you be sharing a bed and a house with your future husband but you will also be sharing families! As old-fashioned as it sounds, you are marrying into a family. Whether it be invitation or food arguments, be firm with your family when expressing that this is a day for the bride and groom, and to not live vicariously through each of you.

Groom Involvement
Most men are clueless when it comes to design and decor. But, this doesn’t mean that you should give up on including him, however. Find out what he is interested in and encourage him to participate in that part. Sure, picking out flowers and invitations may not be on your man’s weekend fun list, but that doesn’t mean he can’t be involved in other ways. If he doesn’t know, explain to him what his options are regarding food, photography, music, etc. And remember: Don’t make the wedding the only interest you share.

Sit down with him, like two adults, and work out the finances of the wedding together. After all, it’s both your money and whether it’s spent on a blow out honeymoon or the shoes of your dreams…it’s all coming from the same pocketbook.
Bridezilla Behavior
Drop the Martha act. Your guy may have a point. If the wedding has become more important than your relationship, that’s a warning sign. Yes, you want a lovely wedding, but not at the expense of your relationship. After all, what’s the point? Keep your future in mind.

Tips for a Perfect Honeymoon

In the hectic days and months leading up to your wedding, it’s often easy to forget that a relaxing vacation awaits you after saying “I do.” The honeymoon is your first getaway as husband and wife, and after the stress of organizing a wedding, it’s most certainly warranted. Enjoy a perfect, stress-free honeymoon by following these simple honeymoon tips:

Select a destination that either has significant meaning to you and your mate, or is a place you’ve always wanted to visit.

Choose a location based on what’s most important to you during your honeymoon, whether that be a relaxing getaway or a week of adventure.

Book flights and accommodations well in advance to take advantage of great deals and to avoid any last-minute stress right before the wedding.

Utilize online deal sites to purchase discounted airfare, hotel rooms, rental cars, or admission to attractions. Not only will this help you stay within your budget, it’ll also clear up extra funds for shopping, eating out, or excursions.

Don’t book an early morning flight the day after the wedding; instead, plan to fly out later in the day or, better yet, a day later to give you time to sleep in and relax following your big day.

Purchase a travel guide or research area restaurants, attractions, activities, shopping, and landmarks to ensure you make the most out of time away.

Make a packing list several weeks before your trip to give you ample time to shop for any clothes or necessities you might need. Don’t forget to think about all vacation scenarios, including sightseeing, strenuous activity, or sophisticated nights out.

If you book your reservations in your new married name, don’t forget to bring along a copy of your marriage license to the airport or you won’t be allowed to board your flight. (To save yourself the stress: book everything in your maiden name so it matches your ID.)

Pack for the trip at least one week before departure to ensure you don’t forget anything and aren’t stressed out in the final days before the wedding trying to get everything done.

Don’t forget the camera! You’ll want to make sure to capture memories from your first trip as husband and wife.

Stick to the budget, but don’t be afraid to splurge a little bit on something special like a couples massage, guided tour, or elegant dinner.