Filling Wedding Roles

Ultimately, your wedding day is about you and your fiancé, but there are several other people who are a part of the big day. The list of wedding positions extends far beyond the bride and groom, giving you plenty of opportunities to incorporate dear friends and special loved ones into your nuptials. Ultimately, it’s up to you to determine how large and involved your wedding will be, but here are a few ideas of positions that may need to be filled:

Bridesmaids: These are the women who will stand beside the bride on the big day and lend their support throughout the wedding process, led by the fearless leader, the maid/matron of honor. The number of bridesmaids (or whether you’ll have any at all) is your call, but they should all be women that either the bride or the groom have a close relationship with. Female tweens and teens can join in the festivities, as well, as junior bridesmaids.

Groomsmen: These are essentially the male version of the bridesmaids, led by the best man. Ideally, the number of groomsmen will be the same as the number of bridesmaids so that everyone is partnered up for the wedding and reception.

Flower Girl(s): This is typically a young girl, usually between the ages of 4 and 8 (although slightly younger or older girls are fine), that walks down the aisle prior to the bride to sprinkle rose petals. Having multiple flower girls is totally acceptable, especially if you have several nieces, cousins, or children of your own.

Ring Bearer: This little guy is also between the ages of four and eight and walks down the aisle either beside the flower girl or just before her, carrying a pillow with two rings attached. Since most five-year-old boys aren’t the most reliable, the rings attached to the pillow are usually fakes.

Ushers: One step down from the groomsmen, these guys still don tuxes (or nice suits if you prefer) and assist with pre-wedding festivities. Their main job includes seating guests at the wedding and possibly pulling a runner down the aisle before the bride makes her entrance. Usually two to four guys are needed as ushers, but groomsmen can certainly fill this role if you don’t have extra men to use. Beyond Bridesmaids and Groomsmen.

Guestbook/Program Attendants: Anywhere from one to three individuals can fill these roles, regardless of their gender. Essentially, these attendants are stationed near the main entrance of the ceremony site to greet guests, pass out programs, and motivate individuals to sign the guestbook.

Reader/Singer/Musician: A great way to incorporate friends or family into the ceremony is by asking them to do a reading of a Bible passage, poem, or quote during the wedding. If you’ve got talented friends that you’d like to get involved, ask them to sing or play a song during the ceremony or the reception. Be sure to ask your wedding DJ to provide the proper audio equipment to accommodate your choices.

Officiant: One of the most surefire ways to personalize your ceremony is to hire an officiant who is close to both the bride and the groom. If you’re actively involved in a house of faith, ask the minister to oversee the nuptials, or if you have a close family member who is in a religious vocation, or works as a judge or ship captain, hire them. Otherwise, approach a trusted friend or family member about the possibility. If they’re interested, they can easily be ordained online, for 100 bucks or less, to legally officiate the wedding.


Usher is the ultimate multi-hyphenate superstar. Singer, dancer, producer, actor, composer, designer, businessman, entrepreneur. It’s hard to believe that although he’s barely over 30 years old, Usher has experienced a successful career that has spanned nearly two decades.

Usher’s career began at the age of 11 when he was part of the singing quintet, NuBeginnings. His time with the group was short-lived and by 13, Usher began pursuing a solo career. Like many aspiring pop stars of his day, he competed on Star Search where he garnered the attention of an A&R representative from LeFace Records. In a short matter of time, Usher was signed to the label and began working on his first album.

The first single he released was for the Poetic Justice soundtrack in 1993. The following year, at the age of 15, Usher released his debut, self-titled solo album with several tracks produced by Sean “P. Diddy” Combs. The album rose up the Billboard charts and sold over 500,000 copies.

From that point on, Usher continued to release addictive R&B albums, produced by mega-stars. His second album, My Way, was certified platinum six times and earned Usher his first Grammy award nomination. Around that time, Usher also launched a successful acting career appearing on the TV sitcom Moesha and in films such as The Faculty and She’s All That.

In 2004, Usher’s album Confessions propelled him to superstardom, selling over one million records in the first week and earning him three Grammys, two MTV Video Music Awards, four World Music Awards, four American Music Awards, and eleven Billboard Music Awards. Over the years, Usher has sold over 45 million albums worldwide and has collected five Grammy awards, four American Music Awards, eight Soul Train Music Awards, four BET Awards, three Nickelodeon Kids Choice Award, six Teen Choice Awards, a Blockbuster Music Award, three R&B Hip Hop Conference Awards, nine ASCAP Awards, and 17 Billboard Music Awards.

In addition to his impressive music career, Usher has also found success as a Broadway star (in 2006’s Chicago), a philanthropist (as the founder of Usher’s New Look Foundation for disadvantaged youth), a businessman (as part owner of the Cleveland Cavaliers), and an entrepreneur (as a fragrance designer). He also started his own record label, US Records, to sign rising young stars such as teen sensation, Justin Bieber.