Writing your own wedding vows can be a daunting task so we’re here to help! If you’re stuck on where to begin or can’t seem to figure out what’s important to say, start by answering these 20 questions to get the creative juices flowing:
How did you meet him/her? What was your first impression? What went through your mind the first time you saw or talked to him/her?
At what point did you first realize you had fallen in love? Did a specific event trigger the revelation? How did you react?
How have you changed as a result of the relationship? What has your partner taught you about life, love, or yourself?
What new things have you experienced thanks to your mate? How has he/she changed your worldview?
What is the thing you miss most about him/her when he/she isn’t around?
How do you envision your future together? Where do you think you’ll be in 10, 20, or 40 years?
What facet(s) of your partner’s personality brings you the most comfort, joy, encouragement, or security?
Is there a movie quote, song lyric, or book excerpt that reminds you of your relationship or sums up how you feel about him/her?
What do you love most about your mate? What are the things you hope he/she will never change about themselves?
What moments in your relationship caused you to see your mate in a new and surprising way? At what moments have you been most impressed with his/her character, outlook, or response? Has your bond been strengthened by any difficult or harrowing experiences?
What goals or values does your partner have that you admire or respect?
In what ways does he/she inspire or encourage you to be a better person?
What unique promises can you make to him/her? Beyond vowing to love, honor, and cherish, what are some specific tasks or commitments that you’re agreeing to in marriage?
How will you make your mate a better person? How will he/she make you a better person in the future? What will be better about you as a married couple?
Why do you want to marry him/her? What unique things will he/she bring to the marriage?
What made you realize he/she was The One? How did you know you wanted to spend the rest of your life with this person?
How will you strengthen and protect your marriage? What will you do to make it stronger in the coming months and years?
What are you most excited about as it pertains to married life? What things are you looking forward to as a husband/wife?
What are your expectations of marriage? What do you hope it will look and feel like?
In what ways will you show your love, devotion, and faithfulness to your partner throughout your marriage?